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2007.01.22

Poem ~ A WOMAN'S ANSWER TO A MAN'S QUESTION.

Mary T. Lathrap (1838-1895)

A WOMAN'S ANSWER TO A MAN'S QUESTION.

[Written in reply to a man's poetic unfolding of what he conceived to be a woman's duty.]

Do you know you have asked for the costliest thing
Ever made by the hand above—
A woman's heart, and a woman's life
And a woman's wonderful love?

Do you know you have asked for this priceless thing
As a child might ask for a toy,
Demanding what others have died to win,
With the reckless dash of a boy?

You have written my lesson of duty out,
Man-like you have questioned me;
Now stand at the bar of my woman's soul
Until I shall question thee.

You require your mutton shall always be hot,
Your socks and your shirt be whole;
I require your heart to be true as God's stars,
And as pure as heaven your soul.

You require a cook for your mutton and beef;
I require a far better thing.
A seamstress you're wanting for socks and shirts;
I look for a man and a king.

A king for the beautiful realm called home,
And a man that the maker, God,
Shall look upon as he did the first
And say, "It is very good."

I am fair and young, but the rose will fade
From my soft, young cheek one day,
Will you love me then 'mid the falling leaves,
As you did 'mid the bloom of May?

Is your heart an ocean so strong and deep,
I may launch my all on its tide?
A loving woman finds heaven or hell
On the day she is made a bride.

I require all things that are grand and true,
All things that a man should be;
If you give all this, I would stake my life
To be all you demand of me.

If you cannot do this — a laundress and cook
You can hire, with little to pay,
But a woman's heart and a woman's life
Are not to be won that way.

2007.02.10

Love and Time

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings
lived; Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge and all the others, including
Love.

One day, it was announced to all of the feelings that the island
was Going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So, all the feelings
prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed to
the end. She wanted to cherish the island paradise until the last
possible moment.
When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to
leave. She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then,
Richness was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, "Richness,
Can I come with you on your boat?" Richness answered, "I'm sorry but
there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no

room for you anywhere."

Then, Love decided to ask Vanity for help, who was passing in a
beautiful vessel. Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please.""I can't
help you," Vanitysaid, "You are all wet and will damage my beautiful
boat."

Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, "Sadness, please
let me go with you."

Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry but I just need to be alone now."

Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, "Happiness, please take me
with you."

But, Happiness was so overjoyed, that he didn't hear Love calling to
him.

Love began to cry.

She then heard a voice say, "Come, Love, I will take you with me." It
was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to
ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land, the elder went on
his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder. Love looked for
Knowledge and asked, "Who was the elder that helped me?"

"It was Time," Knowledge answered. "But, why did Time help me, when
no one else would?" Love asked.

Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered,
"Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

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以上的故事就說到時間會證明一切
剛剛才看完社會討論
說到'愛'
一個24歲的女老師愛上了15歲的男學生
這是甚麼呢...
有人反對,可是又有人贊成
結論呢...是不是愛...是不是對或錯

有輔導說..沒有所謂的對錯, 只有更好

一個教授的看法...
愛是甚麼呢...
愛使用心靈來感受的
愛是發出內心的

結論呢...
是不是真愛...
有時間來證明

2007.03.25

秋寫的喔

2006-07-06 22:59:39
想念一個人,需要衝動的感覺 ~☆~ 愛上一個人,需要十足的勇氣~★~

思念一個人,需要深刻的烙印~☆~ 放棄一個人,談何容易~★~

接近一個人,需要滿懷的誠意~☆~ 喜歡一個人,是一種感覺~★~

喜歡下雨，因為你不知道我流淚....☆~
喜歡發呆....因為你不知道我想你....☆~
喜歡孤單....因為你不知道我愛你....☆~
喜歡在你身邊...因為你是我快樂的唯一因素...☆~

給你生活的忠告：

§ 平時多吃些粗糧。                           這樣才不會發福的...........
§ 給別人比他們自己期許的更多，   活著才有希望阿.............
§ 用心去熟記你喜歡的詩歌，           人生才會快樂...............
§ 不要輕易相信你聽到的每件事，要小心證實。
所謂的人言可畏....................

§ 不要花光你的所有，留點備用。人總是要留一點後路嗎.............
§ 不要想睡多久就睡多久，光陰寶貴，適當就好。
睡不在多,有睡就好..............

§ 無論何時說“我愛你”，請真心實意。               社會到處有溫情...............
§ 無論何時說“對不起”，請看著對方的眼睛。   為人才有禮貌..............
§ 相信一見鍾情。                                                 人生才不會遺憾
§ 永遠不要忽視別人的夢想。                             肯(ken)定別人
§ 深情熱烈地愛，也許你會受傷，但這是使人生完整的唯一法。
如此人生才能瀟灑走一回..................

§ 用一種明確的方法解決爭議，不要冒犯。     

尊重別人,不要想去改變一個人
§ 永遠不要以貌取人。 ;                        人沒有是十全十美................
§ 慢慢地說，但要迅速地想。              慢工出細活
§ 深刻理解所有的規則，合理地更新它們。

以上是我的看法,你們覺得如何,有沒有其他的想法呢

§ 記住：最好的關係存在於對別人的愛勝於對別人的索求之上。
§ 回頭看看你發誓取得的目標，然後評判你到底有多成功。
§ 無論是烹調還是愛情，都用百分之百的負責態度對待，但是不要期求太多的回報。

§ 不要把這篇教義僅留於自己的手邊。


愛情最難事

最難遇的
是碰上那種他會非常愛你，你也愛他，但不用愛得像他那麼用力的人

最難為的
是同時愛上兩個人，終於決定捨棄其一

最難辦的
也是同時愛上兩個人，但又不願捨棄任何一方

最難忍的
是當街遇到舊情人摟著一個品味比你差太多的新歡，
而你那位比對方體面許多的情人，卻剛好不在身邊

最難堪的
是你自作多情對人好，卻被對方指控騷擾

最難辯的
是你明明對他毫無感覺，但他卻大? v對周遭友人宣揚你對他有意思

最難拿捏的
是關心太少，被視為冷漠無誠意，太多又有雞婆管閒事之虞

最難拒絕的
是被人一廂情願的暗戀，暗戀到讓你沒有機會向對方挑明自己不能接受

最難接受的
是你早已嫌棄對方，卻被對方搶先一步提出分手

最難控制的
是情人的胃與心，該吃該愛都只能由他

最難演練的
是欲擒故縱，技巧稍有疏失，就成了"放生"

最難表達的
是讓對方知道，其實你正在等他前來示愛

最難決定的
是你面前出現了有財無才，有才無財，及才財兼備，偏偏又不夠愛的人，

讓你任選其一時
最難啟齒的
是你主動提出分手，說得太絕會被罵負心，太婉轉又怕對方沒能體會，

還要繼續和你手牽手，做"好朋友"
最難收放的
是為愛付出，太多恐有血本無歸之風險，太少又怕投資不夠，回報無期

最糟糕的
是你才剛和他許下了山盟海誓，永不分離，就又發現了另一個讓你無法自拔，深深吸引的人  

2007.03.31

We need to communicate, from Young's

We need to communicate

Why is that an unreasonable pont of view?
When we're talking, we seem to talk of leaving
You changed so much (I was cut apart)
We didn't do that (How was it?)
The way of talking which didn't stop
Until my head seemed to spin and I was irritated
(What did you think of it?)

With us love was cold within 10 months
Everyday we hated what we saw
Like you I found many good people
(People who are seen in magazines
Once it seemed okay)
Affection doesn't come from anywhere
It comes from my heart
There is no end to my heart
Maybe it seems that this is how love is
I'll try to love you
(Try to listen to me from now on)

I clinged to you (That wasn't clinging)
You were too, too tied up (I'll be tied up like you)
We won't trawl dating pages like a rag
Everything is interference (baby woo woo woo)

I want to know what interests you
Inside my head I've become fond of you
Did a wave come and carry me away?
You're awful for not listening to me
(Because of you in my head, I liked you)
I miss you so much, and your phone calls
Did I try to love you?
Your voice sounded annoyed by my "I'm busy now"
(Will you try to listen when I say I'm so sorry?)

We need to talk (Or else we'll break up like this)
I don't really know you (Our words left unsaid)
Always I keep it inside me
How you are precious and how much I thank you
I'll forget it all (baby woo woo woo)

We need to talk
We don't talk enough
If we are in love, we should not speak of trivial things
We don't try hard enough to speak our minds
(I love you so much)
We need to talk Posted by SimplyMinded at 10:00 AM 

2007.04.11

Love is when two people
touch each other's soul.

Love is honesty and trust.

Love is helping one another.

Love is mutual respect.

Love means that differences can be
worked out.

Love is reaching your
dreams together.

Love is the connection of
two hearts,
yours and mine.

2007.05.04

容

 容
有三類涵義
包容  (self control)
寬容  (tolerant)
笑容  (smile)

這就是生活必要有的
黃約揮牧師分享的

2007.05.17

牽手比做愛重要

有一個朋友告訴我，她與男友交往了一年，只牽過手，還沒接過吻。她不是處女，她交過男朋友，但是她願意和一個男人牽了一年的手，還不急著接吻。

有一個朋友寫了篇文章說她喜歡男人在過馬路的時候、在party的時候、在看鬼片的時候會牽著她的手，並告訴她牽不牽手，很重要。

我想起了談戀愛的過程裡，許多真正讓我心動的每一刻，都是與牽手相關。與初戀男人第一次牽手，我害羞的一直低著頭，緊張的直冒手汗，那一刻彷彿正式宣告了：「我們在一起！」我的心臟差一點因為劇烈的跳動而興奮窒息。

我喜歡我愛的男人，走在路上時，他步伐比較大在我的前頭，仍然記得把手往後伸，手心向上，暗示著我趕快向前抓住他的手。那種感覺，深刻的窩心。

我也喜歡和朋友一同吃飯時，我的男人在餐桌下握住我的手，我們甚至不用看著對方的眼神，也可以透過手心的溫度感受到他緊緊的陪伴著我。

騎車時候，他會空出他的左手捉住我的左手，開車的時候，他會伸出他的右手握著我的左手。我喜歡男人大大的手掌、修長的手指、厚實的掌心，讓我感受到他的力量，安心的停靠在他的手裡。

每到了冬天，男人的手是我的專屬暖爐，不管有多冷，即使是零下10度，我都可以向他取暖。男人手心的溫度總是暖的剛剛好，妳只能習慣他的溫度，別的男人就算有一樣的體溫，妳還是習慣那一種「他的溫度」。

當我們長大了，成熟了，談戀愛的速度變的快一些了，牽手的重要性或許小到微不足道，你可以覺得很容易，也可以覺得它不代表什麼。我們和一個男人在一起，不再只是由牽手開始，我們可能因為吻了一個男人所以開始了戀情，可能和一個男人做愛，才開始愛上他，更可能什麼都做過了，卻一點也不愛他。

我想起許多男人，他們或許願意和一個女人親密的接吻上床，宛如熱戀中的情侶一樣，但是他們吝於在公開的場合牽起她的手。

我們開始習慣於複雜的情感關係，深層的肉體關係，但是我們卻忽略了最簡單的牽手關係。或許我們不是忽略，我們只是不願意重視。

我想，牽手一定是最簡單，也是最難的肉體關係。

我們可以很容易的牽到任何一個人的手，我們很難和任何一個人做愛。

相反的，我們可以很容易的和任何一個人做愛，我們卻很難簡單大方的牽著他的手。

我們常學著保護自己，連帶的連任何的付出都受到保護。

我們思考複雜的問題，相對的我們忽略了再簡單不過的道理。

常常我走在路上會被牽著手的老夫妻所感動，有多少人年老了，走不動了，還有人會牽著你的手陪你慢慢走嗎？我指的是陪伴你一生的「好牽手」。在你年老色衰、病痛纏身、舉步維艱的時候，他還會陪在你身旁給你永遠的力量。於是我微笑著看著那些老夫老妻，我總是忍不住感動濕了眼眶。

以前有一陣子，我很喜歡「簡單愛」這首歌的歌詞：「我想就這樣牽著你的手不放開，愛能不能夠簡簡單單沒有傷害。」年輕的時候覺得簡單的愛著一個人是很容易的事情，我們總是自負的以為可以簡單的愛一個人，但是最後才發現，感情不只是單純想像的那樣簡單，也不是我愛你你就會愛我那麼容易，我們還要面對許多的挑戰、時空的折磨，與人性的無奈。

有的人跟我說，做愛比牽手疏離。我不懂，明明是做愛比較親密不是嗎？我們分類感情的先後順序不就是：牽手、擁抱、接吻、坦誠相見、做愛，這樣的順序，不對嗎？那麼做愛的感情應該比牽手深，不是嗎？

不是的。

真的不是的。

有的人先做愛了，才牽手，也有的人先接吻了，才牽手。如果最後真的能相愛，那麼順序當然不是重點。但是願意在私下與你做愛的人，很多卻不願意公開與妳牽手。

而讓我覺得窩心甜蜜的，不是男人與我做愛，而是他願意緊緊的，緊緊的牽著我的手，不管是在哪裡，都讓我感覺他的愛透過手心傳遞到我的心底，那一刻，才是最幸福、最溫暖的感動。


或許愛情不再那麼簡單，

我依然相信，牽手比做愛重要。

2007.08.08

Take Time

Take time to think;
It is the source of power.
Take time to read;
It is the foundation of wisdom.
Take time to play;
It is the secret of staying young.
Take time to be quiet;
It is the opportunity to seek God.
Take time to be aware;
It is the opportunity to help others.
Take time to love and to be loved;
It is God’s greatest gift.
Take time to laugh;
It is the music of the soul.
Take time to be friendly;
It is the road to happiness.
Take time to dream;
It is what the future is made of.
Take time to pray;
It is the greatest power on earth.

2007.08.31

Wise Pray 4 Your Love

I Pray for a man that will be a part of my live 

A man that really loves You more than everything 

A man that will take me in the second place of his heart 

A man that lives not for himself but for You 

Face and physical attraction isn’t important, 

the most important is I want a heart that really loves and thirsty of You 

and have a desire to be like Jesus 

And he must know for whom and for what he lives, 

so his life isn’t useless 

Someone that have a wise heart not only a smart brain 

A man that not only loves me but also respect me 

A man that not only can adore me but can warn me when I’m wrong 

A man that loves me not from my beauty but from my heart 

A man that can be my best friend in every time and situation 

A man that make me feel like a woman when I beside him 

I’m not ask a perfect man, but I ask for imperfect man 

So I can make him perfect in Your eyes 

A man that need my support for his strength 

A man that need my prayer for his life 

A man that need my smile to cover his sadness 

A man that need my love so he could feel beloved 

A man that need me to make his life perfect 

And I also ask Make me to be a woman that can made him proud 

Give me a heart that really love You 

So I could love him with Your love not love him with my love 

Give me Your gentle spirit so my beauty not come from my outside but come from You 

Give me Your hands that I always able to pray for him 

Give me Your eyes so I could see many good things in him and not the bad one 

Give me Your mouth that fulfilled with Your words of wisdom and encouragement 

So I could support him every day 

Give me Your lips and I will smile at him every morning 

And I want that when finally we meet, 

both of us can say How great Thou art

that You give me someone that can make my life perfect 

I know that You want us meet at the right time 

And You will make everything beautiful in Your time 

Amen

2007.10.18

Relationship 的三大重要點

負責任

忠誠

信任

這是我尊敬的學姐又是老師的分享

到底...

該怎麼做人呢

這三點....

也有在我身上嗎?


要求別人.... 但... 自己有做到嗎?